I've heard in so many of my readings that the timing of our death is not coincidence. We die when we've fulfilled our purpose on this earth for this lifetime. It's that simple. For some people this takes four years, for others it takes forty-four years and for some it can take up to 100 years. But if you're still here, it simply means you haven't completed your life's mission yet.
Most people like to die alone. When loved ones stand vigil at the bedside, they can unwittingly keep the dying person here longer than they need to or should. So, often they'll wait until you leave the room -- even for just a lunch break -- to pass on to the other side.
I also hear in readings something along these lines: "I know the timing of my death wasn't great, but when you get over here, you'll understand why I had to go then."
A few months ago a father came through and told his daughter that his death prompted her to make some significant life choices -- including starting a family and changing a job. Last week a mother came through to her son and said she had to go when she did to help him fulfill something he had not done in a past life. Her death provided the inspiration he needed. Children often come through and say that their passing helped their parents to teach others about faith, grief and surviving tragedy.
I've also noticed that our pets seem to pass at specific times. They tend to move on when we're going through or are about to go through significant life changes. It's as though they helped us get so far and that's all they were supposed to do. Our dog passed away two days before my mother-in-law died. Our dog, a gentle doberman, had come into my life to help me with mothering and she passed away just before my second maternal role model left this world. It was as though they were both saying, "You're prepared to do this on your own now." My friend lost her dog of almost 15 years right after she decided to leave her husband. I knew the dog had helped get her through the difficult final stages of her marriage and had then chosen to move on.
It's never easy losing a loved one. It doesn't matter if they're 99 and lived a great life. Death is hard. But we can facilitate our grief process by finding comfort in a few facts:
1) No one dies alone. No one. We always have our guides, loved ones and angels with us during that time. I remember doing a reading once for a woman who lost her husband to a drowning. He showed me his angel and his grandfather were with him under the water and escorting him all the way to heaven. It doesn't matter how quick or unexpected our passing is, we don't make that transition alone.
2) There's always a reason for why we die and when we die. No one dies in vain. I'm always assured that all will be made clear when it's our turn to be on the other side. But, in general, people pass because they've fulfilled their mission on earth. It doesn't matter how short that life was -- every life has a purpose and a reason. I've done hundreds of readings where aborted souls come through explaining that they came to their mother at that time to serve as a wakeup call. Most, if not all, aborted souls know they'll be terminated prior to coming to earth. Their mission is to help the mom, not themselves.
3) We can help our loved ones die an easier death if we tell them it's okay to go. Don't hold on to your dying loved one. It's unfair to them and can hinder the ease with which they transition. And, please, please, please don't fight with family members after a loved one has passed. They see this and it always pains them. If you want to honor them and their life, don't fight.
4) They will contact you through signs and dreams. The speed at which they can make this contact depends on the level of your faith and grief. If you don't have faith in an afterlife, it's almost impossible for them to penetrate your aura to come into your dreams. If you're burdened with grief, they also can't penetrate your aura. Skepticism, sadness, and depression puts up a grayish cement wall of thick energy around the person making it nearly impossible for them to feel anything from their guides, angels and loved ones. If they died tragically or after a prolonged illness, it might take them some time to learn how to come into your dreams. Just be patient.
And finally, rest assured that:
5) You will see them again. You will.