We attract into our life a reflection of what’s going on inside of us. So if you’re feeling sad, angry or restricted because of your weight, health, job, or past relationships, then you will attract someone into your life who is also sad or angry. If you had an issue with one of your parents, you will also attract a person with the same issue into your life so you can continue to heal that relationship. Let’s say, for example, that your father abandoned you. This means that you could attract a partner who is afraid of commitment. If your mother was angry and always yelling, you might attract a partner with a terrible temper. So before you focus on attracting new love into your life, it’s important to do some good work on yourself first. Once you’ve accomplished these tasks, you’re ready to attract the right love into your life!
1) THE LIST
This is an old, tried and true, method that really works IF you give it the time and attention it deserves. Take out a piece of paper and write on it, “My New Love Is:” and then write a list of everything you want in your partner. List all the physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, and personality traits that are important to you. Be very careful with your list because it works.
Once you’re done, hang it up in a place where you’ll see it often – the bathroom mirror or refrigerator -- are good options. Then every morning and every evening read the list affirming in your heart that you’re bringing new love into your life.
2) CRYSTAL LOVE GRID
Create a crystal grid to attract love into your life. Simply write an affirmation on a piece of paper such as “the right love comes to me right now” and place a rose quartz on top of that. It’s best if this center stone is a pyramid or obelisk shaped stone so that it send the energy of your affirmation up into the universe. Surround this center stone with pink stones (any variety will do) in a heart shape. Keep this grid out where you can see it every day knowing and affirming that you are attracting your new love into your life.
If you’re in a new relationship and you’re hopeful it will grow into something more, write an affirmation such as “my relationship grows in love, respect, passion and commitment every day” and place it under a plant. Place a pink stone in the plant and every time you look at the plant affirm to yourself that your new relationship is growing in love.
3) LETTING GO OF THE PAST
In order to invite in new love, you must let go of old relationships. The emotions of anger, resentment, guilt and mistrust are very powerful, and they set up barriers in our auric field that tell potential new partners “stay away.” In addition to therapy and good friends, there are some great metaphysical techniques you can use to let go of a painful past relationship once and for all.
For starters, gather up everything your ex gave you – letters, gifts, cards. If none of it is meaningful or valuable to you, then donate the gifts and throw away the letters. If you’d like to hold on to these things because they have sentimental value, then box it up and tie it with a black ribbon. Black is grounding and protective.
Next, write a letter to your ex. This is a letter he/she will never see, so really pour your heart into the letter. Get out all your regrets, dashed hopes, anger, guilt and sadness. Once you’re done, you can either rip up the letter, bury it, or safely burn it in an oven proof bowl.
4) ACCEPTING LOVE INTO YOUR LIFE
The best way to attract new love into you life is by loving yourself. Do something fun for yourself every day – whether it’s running a hot bath, treating yourself to a manicure or coffee with a friend – make sure you are focusing on being kind to yourself. When you catch yourself being self-critical, say, “cancel, cancel” and think of something great about yourself. Learn to accept compliments. Be gentle to your soul. Feel positive about your future.
So if you’re single and looking for love, open your heart to new experiences. Expect, no, demand happiness and soon you’ll be celebrating with a new love by your side.